Have you ever played Capture the Flag? It was one of my favorite summer camp games because it was filled with adventure and intrigue as we plotted how we would get to the other side of a field, to capture the other team’s flag and bring it back to our side of the world!
The downside of the game was that if you were captured in enemy territory, you were frozen in place, unable to move forward to help your team or to retreat back to safety! Being frozen was really a state of limbo. It was watching the game unfold, not as a spectator, and not as a full participant.
As we prepare for our expat journey I’ve been reminded that I’m not good at limbo. I would rather:
- Be creating the change.
- Play a supportive role: If I know why we are doing something, when it’s happening, what I need to do and when I need to do it.
- Be a real spectator: If I’m watching something amazing unfold, getting to share that experience with others and if I have some idea when the event ends!
I prefer to be participating, adding value, moving towards a goal, and quite simply just being in motion!
So while I wait on normal government and company paperwork to process and unclear timelines I feel frozen, out of control and indecisive.
- I struggle with knowing what commitments I can make to family, friends and professionally that I will be able to keep.
- I struggle with feeling like I’m not contributing the way that I would like to.
- I struggle with not having all of the answers.
- I struggle with being still and just waiting.
- And I am very aware that while part of me is trying to let go, and the other part of me is clinging tightly to what I know…
Please share: How does limbo affect you?
- Are you comfortable with it?
- What makes it hard for you?
- Is there anything you enjoy about limbo?
- What fuels you when you are in a state of limbo?
- What have you learned from being in limbo?